don't take things personally four agreements

In an insecurely attached relationship, it’s safer to assume your partner doesn’t want to commit (whether it’s marriage or otherwise) because he’s not ready to settle down or his prior relationship soured him on the idea.

If you don’t ask questions, you can comfortably continue with the illusion that everything is ok. Assuming allows you to impose your reality on other people, expecting them to think and act the same way you do.Assuming is a great distractor from dealing with your feelings.Assuming is safer than the truth, allowing you to live in a fantasy.Why do people assume? Here are a few common reasons I encounter, especially when it comes to insecure attachment : Remember this from last week… Your reality is simply that: YOUR reality. But we cannot dive into another person’s head and know what they’re thinking, but we sure think we can!ĭo you ever read into texts, emails, or even conversations and think you have the other person “figured out”? You believe you know their reason, intention, or motivation, but that assumption is based on your reality and your beliefs. We ASSUME our reality is the same as someone else’s reality, so we fit whatever they do or say into how we view the world. The Third Agreement is closely related to the Second Agreement: Don’t take anything personally. “The problem with making assumptions is that we believe they are the truth.” Ok, let’s jump in! Agreement #3: Don’t Make Assumptions

If you’re just joining, you can access the prior posts here: Intro, First Agreement, Second Agreement. Welcome back to my blog series on “ The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom” by Don Miguel Ruiz.

Don't take things personally four agreements